Mr. C and I celebrated our 46th Wedding Anniversary this week. I have mentioned before that I married at the tender age of 16 to a young military man. Thinking back on the many roads we have been down brought to mind the question that is asked by so many - How can two people stay together for that many years? I don't know the answer but I read the letter Paul Newman supposedly gave his wife on their wedding day and I think he might have had the right answer. It goes like this:
Paul Newman's letter to his wife on their wedding day: “ Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created. In the Art of Marriage, the little things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say ‘I love you’ at least once a day. It is never going to sleep angry. It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon; it should continue through all the years. It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. It is standing together facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family. It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy. It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways. It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have the wings of an angel. It is not looking for perfection in each other. It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow. It is finding rooms for things of the spirit. It is a common search for the good and the beautiful. It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and obligation is reciprocal. It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner."
That pretty much says it all.
To all my blogging friends, y'all have a wonderful and safe Memorial Day weekend.
Happy Anniversary, Brenda. And may you have many, many more.Blessings on you and your family!
ReplyDeleteOh sweet Brenda a HUGE happy anniversary! What an amazing accomplishment! Hubs and I will be celebrating 26 in August and i know marriage just does not happen, it takes a lot of love and hard work. Be blesed this special day.
ReplyDeleteLorena
Happy Anniversary! Wishing you many more happy years together! You were a smart lady at a young age....you picked a great guy!
ReplyDeleteHappy Anniversary my dear! :) I wish you a happy future!
ReplyDeleteHugs,
Amen to all that. And, thanks for your support of our military.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on your anniversary!!
ReplyDeleteCongrat's Happy Anniversary Both Of You!
ReplyDeleteMany more . Your catching up tp my hubby and I of 52 years.
Of course you cannot catch up to us but I pray you both will celebrate that many years in time.
Nice side picture of you both.
I know having comunication makes a marriage. Never go to bed angry.
For one never knows what to-morrow brings. So live every day to the fullest as man and wife.